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Little things matter: a thought on “Amoris Laetitia”

22 Friday Apr 2016

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big hand and little handOne take away that I have gained from Amoris Laetitia is to pay attention to the little things because they do matter.  Like many people, I am seeking to follow the Holy Father’s recommendation and read the exhortation a little at a time in order to reflect as I go.  I am doing my best to obey the pope in this regard and I have found that the document does lend itself to this style of reflective reading.

The exhortation is rich in scriptural and theological thought on love and marriage and there is much worthy of reflecting upon but one thing that I believe this pope is keenly aware of is that all that richness regarding love and marriage which our tradition affords has to be lived out in the daily and in the ordinary and that our daily choices do make a difference. Love and marriage do not exist locked away somewhere in a hermetically sealed vacuum but are made and grow (or sadly torn down) by the daily choices we make.  This is not to deny any of the teachings that the Church has but rather to both see and put them in context and to acknowledge that context does matter.

If God does not disdain the daily and ordinary (i.e. creation and the incarnation) then why should we? Pope Francis is aware of this and through his exhortation he is inviting the Church to this awareness.

One part of the exhortation that brings this awareness out for me can be found in chapters 127 and 128. It is shared below.  Notice how the Holy Father offers some astute theological and philosophical reasoning right alongside some very practical and daily observations and advice.  The two are not separate for Pope Francis.

…Loving another person involves the joy of contemplating and appreciating their innate beauty and sacredness, which is greater than my needs. This enables me to seek their good even when they cannot belong to me, or when they are no longer physically appealing but intrusive and annoying.  For “the love by which one person is pleasing to another depends on his or her giving something freely”.

The aesthetic experience of love is expressed in that “gaze” which contemplates other persons as ends in themselves, even if they are infirm, elderly or physically unattractive. A look of appreciation has enormous importance, and to begrudge it is usually hurtful.  How many things do spouses and children sometimes do in order to be noticed!  Much hurt and many problems result when we stop looking at one another.  This lies behind the complaints and grievances we often hear in families: “My husband does not look at me; he acts as if I were invisible”.  “Please look at me when I am talking to you!”  “My wife no longer looks at me, she only has eyes for our children.”  “In my own home nobody cares about me: they do not even see me; it is if I did not exist!”  Love opens our eyes and enables us to see, beyond all else, the great worth of a human being.  (AL, #127-128)

The innate dignity of the human person is affirmed along with the solid teaching that no human person should be treated as a means to an end. We can develop the ability to recognize this worth through the profound spiritual truth of making the free choice to love.  These are profound truths of our faith grounded both philosophically and theologically and the Holy Father immediately ties them in to our everyday lives when he then goes on to write: Much hurt and many problems result when we stop looking at one another. 

It is not enough to just contemplate the idea of love, we must be willing to live the choice to love and that choice is made in the very ordinary and daily context of our lives. In this regards it is the choice to simply gaze on the other person and simply make eye contact.  And it does make a difference.

Not that long ago I ran into a parishioner from a previous assignment and she shared with me that one of the things she appreciated about my ministry at her parish was that I actually made eye contact with her and other people when I distributed communion. This assignment was years ago and she still remembered the simple exchange of eye contact and not just hurriedly handing out the Eucharist as if in an assembly line!  The little things we do matter for people, more so than we may often realize.

Going further, I think that Pope Francis has recently given the whole world a lesson in this in his willingness to have the Vatican (assisted by the Community of Sant’Egidio) take in and provide shelter for twelve Syrian refugees. The Church and Popes have consistently taught both the dignity of the person and the dignity of refugees.  Pope Francis has continued this teaching and he has demonstrated his willingness to go beyond just a theoretical teaching and make the choice to love specifically in the context of our day by welcoming these refugees!  Before the whole world, the Pope is practicing what he is preaching.  By welcoming these refugees, the Holy Father is demonstrating that he has “made eye contact” as it were; he has gazed upon these men, women and children in their need and has recognized their innate dignity and worth and has made the choice to help them.

Choices made in the daily context of our situations do make a difference including the choice to gaze on the other person with love and respect.

In the gospel for this coming Sunday (Jn. 13:31-33a, 34-35) our Lord gives us the new commandment to love one another. It is important to note that this commandment is not given as a theoretical abstract but is given within a specific context: after our Lord humbles himself and washes the feet of his disciples at the Last Supper.  Throughout that sacred meal our Lord gazed upon his disciples with love (John tells us that he loved them to the end) and they humbly looked on as he (the teacher and master) washed their feet.  Love here is not an idea contemplated but a choice lived for the other.

Choices made in love do matter. They do make a difference.  Even the most daily and seemingly mundane of choices to love and show love matter and they connect us, as disciples, to our Lord himself.  Pope Francis knows this.  Hopefully we can learn from him.

“Amoris Laetitia” and the clearing of a brush pile: an analogy

14 Thursday Apr 2016

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amoris-laetitia-bannerNo analogy is perfect but I would like to offer one in regards to Pope Francis’ latest apostolic exhortation, the context of marriage in our world today and what the Holy Father is calling the Church to through his words.

A few years ago I purchased some land in the mountains of East Tennessee near the state line with North Carolina. The land is mostly wooded but there are two fields that sit along the road.  Once I acquired the land I bought the architectural plans of a small home design and I hired a local contractor to do the building.  In the process electricity had to be run to the site where the home would sit.  One day the electrical workers arrived and with an authority second only to God they immediately cut down a stand of towering pine trees in order to run the electrical lines.  The trees fell into one of the fields and there they lay … for a couple of years.

My original intent to cut the trees up quickly and be done with it did not materialize and by the time that I did get around to beginning the work an almost impenetrable stand of brush and thorns had grown up around the trees. It has been hard and tedious work.  Many times my hands, arms and face have been slashed with the thorn brambles that I am convinced are conscious and out to wreck vengeance upon me.  Each time that I am able to put in some work on this task I leave exhausted and worn out.  I have pretty much cut everything down to the massive trunks now and have many piles of wood and bramble to be burned as proof of my efforts but it has been a long haul and, even yet, not fully completed.

The analogy is this. Trees have fallen into the life-giving field of marriage and they have done damage and have lain there for quite some time and an almost impenetrable stand of brush and thorns have grown up.  Pope Francis, in his exhortation, is inviting the Church not just to wax philosophical or theological about marriage nor to bemoan the ruinous state of affairs and wag fingers but rather to get about the hard and tedious work of clearing away the trees, thorns and brambles and reclaiming the life-giving field of marriage.

This being said, there are some important nuances to be aware of.

The trees were cut down due to our activity and selfishness. Extreme individualism, a pace of life that is chaotic and stressful, a culture of greed that leaves many people and families impoverished, addictions that wreak havoc on families, a throw-away mentality even in regards to relationships, even a theologically abstract understanding of marriage – these are all means by which the trees have been cut down and have fallen, causing immense damage.

One temptation is to just let the trees lie where they are and let the brush and thorns continue growing and accept that this is just the way things are and how they are meant to be. But to do so would be to deny both the beauty of the field and its full possibility and how it, by its very nature, is meant to give life.

No one can think that the weakening of the family as the natural society founded on marriage will prove beneficial to society as a whole. The contrary is true: it poses a threat to the mature growth of individuals, the cultivation of community values and the moral progress of cities and countries.  There is a failure to realize that only the exclusive and indissoluble union between a man and a woman has a plenary role to play in society as a stable commitment that bears fruit in new life.  We need to acknowledge the great variety of family situations that can offer a certain stability, but de facto or same-sex unions, for example, may not simply be equated with marriage.  No union that is temporary or closed to the transmission of life can ensure the future of society.  (AL # 52)

If letting the trees lie and the brush and thorns grow and thinking all the while that it is the norm is a disservice to the field then just shaking our heads as Church and wagging our fingers at society is also a disservice that does no good. This is the second temptation we might have in reaction to the current state of affairs but nothing ultimately good, the Holy Father reminds us, comes out of simply throwing hard stones.  Contemplating the nature of marriage and family life certainly has importance and value but just sitting back and waxing on about an idealized form of marriage does not clear away the brush and thorns that have grown up.  Exalted language and thought alone can sometimes be used as a cover for the dual sins of sloth and tired resignation and a way to avoid the hard work that needs to be done.

What then are we to do as Church? In no uncertain terms, Pope Francis is calling us into the thicket in order to begin the hard and tedious work of clearing away the brush and thorn and regaining the field.  He is calling everyone in the Church to this work and he also knows that within the labor itself we will learn some things.

Yes, the thorns that have grown up can sting and cause pain but thorns also are a means to protect. There are human persons living within the reality and brokenness of marriage in our world today.  Human persons who are made in the image of God and who have been wounded by forces beyond their control.  These people need to be respected.  One way to respect them is to be willing to meet them where they are at and not just treat them as a theory, a statistic or that group “over there”.  This means going into the thicket and, yes, even being willing to suffer the stings and pain of the thorns that people often can carry in life as a means to protect.  Please note that this does not imply denying the reality of sin and the need to take responsibility for sinful choices and behavior.  It means trusting in the power of the gospel and being willing to carry the gospel into every situation.

Once we get into the thicket we will realize that there is life and beauty even within the thorns and brush. The human spirit is an amazing thing – even producing beauty and goodness amidst brokenness and confusion.  Is it the perfect beauty of the field?  No, but it is beauty nonetheless and there is really no reason why this should not be acknowledged.  Can there be beauty within a broken and separated family?  Yes.  Can there be honest care found in a committed same-sex relationship?  I think so.  Do these negate the beauty of marriage as God has intended it?  No, just as that beauty found in the very limited confines of the thicket does not deny the beauty or the life-giving nature of the field.  But, neither do these realities negate the Church’s duty and responsibility to proclaim and cultivate the true nature of marriage.

We need to walk carefully and be attentive to how we go about the work of clearing the field. All of the abstract principles and talk of marriage and family life are ultimately enfleshed within the lives of living persons – both the fullness of marriage in all of its possibility as well as the brokenness and woundedness which can occur.  Pope Francis is not downplaying the Church’s teaching on marriage in any way, rather he is saying we need to hold all teachings in relation to the lived reality in order to determine how best to proclaim the good news in the current situation.

It will no longer be enough to just clear away the trees, thorns and brush. We must always continually do the work of cultivating the field.  I do believe that the Church has taken this for granted for far too long and has even been neglectful.  In essence, we help people get married and then we often say, “You are on your own now.  Get in touch with us when you need a baptism.”  We can no longer do this.  The Church must continually be attentive to cultivating the field of marriage.  We must work at it and we must grow in a true theology of marriage and family life.  Our world demands it.

No analogy is perfect and I do not pretend that this one is. But after reading some of Amoris Laetitia the other day followed by a couple of hours work of clearing the field I realized that it is an analogy that works … at least for me.

An “exhortation” is the proper word. In his writing Pope Francis certainly reflects on the beauty of the sacrament of marriage and family but then he exhorts and calls us as Church to the hard, tedious and necessary work of clearing the field.

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